Response to: Working With Alpha Grooms

I vividly remember probably the most awkward moment in my life. Right before my wife and I got married we went to see her gynecologist to talk about safe methods of birth control, because she was still a virgin she felt that this step was necessary.  While we were not there for an actual appointment, I can still recall the unsettling feeling I had while sitting in the room with my fiancée staring at this awkward looking medieval contraption while waiting for a woman who knew more about my fiancée’s body then I did. This feeling only became worse when her gynecologist entered the room and spoke to her for roughly forty minutes without ever acknowledging me or even looking in my direction.

The Way You make Me Feel

Funny enough I slightly experienced this feeling again the first time that my wife and I sat down with her wedding planner (who also happened to be her sister) and her mother, to talk about our wedding. Of course the atmosphere was a lot nicer and so were the people, but when it came down to the elements of the wedding once again I was in my corner in the dark.

So what did I do? I became somewhat of a Jerk – @theblogsmaid – I began demanding that we had pot stickers at the reception and that there would be no wedding cake but that we would have ice cream instead as well as an added few other random, troublesome requests. Of course I felt stupid and later conceded explaining to my fiancée that I just felt like I wasn’t being considered during the planning process.

 

The Underlying Issue

You see while there are some groom-kong’s out there, I personally believe that the underlying issue that these grooms face is desiring to be involved. And while we may be grown men sometimes we can act like children when we feel unneeded.  And although reputation and respect may be important to a man his desire to feel needed and to be considered can balance the scale that the other two are on.

Of course this is not an excuse for grooms to be irrational and go against the grain. Instead we are trying to give more insight on why some grooms sometimes pee in the punch.

So how do you deal with your Groom-kong?

Well talk with him alone and find out what the underlying issue is. (Insert plug here) Then tell them to get The Alpha Groom app and then customize it! Meaning: cut down his list and add to it how you will. Then you and your wedding planner can monitor his progress through your Alpha Groom Sidekick apps! (P.S. It’s FREE)

And while we know that the “Working with Alpha Grooms” was not directed at us we would just like to clear this up; an Alpha groom is a groom that does everything he can to support and please his bride during the wedding planning process. The guys that Always a Blogsmaid talked about, well they’re just “jerks”.

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